Rob and I went to Japan at the beginning of January 2019, and we stayed there until April for Rob’s work. The original plan was to stay there through May but things changed and we came home about two weeks early. It was truly an amazing experience. After we came home, the we discussed the possibility of making this trip a second time… then we got cats. In spite of that, we decided that Rob would make another extended trip to Japan… without me. Someone has to stay home with our kittens, and I took a leave of absence for the first trip, but there’s no way I would be able to swing that at work again. Rob was hoping to stay for three or four months, but was told he would be there for six months, but now that has been reduced to five months. Five long months.
Rob and I have been together for 10 years and this will be the most time we’ve ever been apart. We were told months ago that he had been selected so you would think we’d have had time to adjust but that totally wasn’t the case. Even though we knew it was coming, it didn’t really sink in for either of us until the weekend before his departure. I kept thinking to myself, “Man, I’m really handling this surprisingly well!”
Monday night rolled around and the clinginess increased. I just wanted to be next to Rob, holding him and kissing him constantly. Then Tuesday morning arrived and we had to get up to go to the airport. Watching Rob say goodbye to our little cats was so hard! Last time they saw us with luggage, we were only in Las Vegas for a few days. I don’t know if they recognize luggage as a sign of upcoming travel but I am certain they have no idea Rob will be gone so long. Poor Emilia is probably wondering what the heck is going on. His goodbyes to the three of them made me tear up a little. Unfortantely, the pictures didn’t come out great and are a little blurry. My phone camera needs time to focus which proves challenging at times when I want to capture a specific moment with energetic cats!
The drive to the airport wasn’t what I would call fun! The traffic heading to SeaTac was heavy, as was the rain. It took significantly longer to reach the airport than it should have. Fortunately, we have ourselves plenty of time to get there but unfortunately, we weren’t able to have the cup of coffee we had planned to have together before he went through security. I am grateful for the few minutes we shared before leaving, chatting as I got ready to take him.
Pulling up to the departure area and realizing I was about to drop him off and say goodbye caused me feel so much anxiety. I couldn’t believe this moment had arrived. I have to give so much credit to military spouses! Rob and I won’t realistically be apart nearly as long as some of them but that didn’t make this any easier on me. In that moment, I really had to fight to hold back the tears.
The traffic at the airport wasn’t bad so I was able to pull up to the Delta drop off fairly easily. We both got out, Rob grabbed his stuff and then we said goodbye. There was a lot of kissing & hugging, and quite a few tears on my part. I’ve never been that girl crying in the airport before this and I didn’t care who saw! It was so hard to walk away from him but eventually, I did.
After I got back into my car, there was a lot more crying.
It was a long drive home, and a long day of off and on tears. I did manage to come home and be a little productive, doing a really deep clean in my kitchen so that was sorta distracting. We spent his airport hours and that flight texting each other pretty much constantly. He could not get back to me fast enough!! I was so relieved when he finally landed in Tokyo, because the thought of him on a plane without me bothered me very much.
I will be visiting Rob in Japan next month and I can’t wait. I can’t wait to see him, I can’t wait to be back in Japan and I can’t wait for that time off from work! Rob is really looking forward to my visit as well. For him, this trip is a little less exciting. He isn’t getting a bunch of days off to take a vacation to a foreign country like I am, he is a picky eater so his food options are very limited there and he is looking forward to the comfort of my presence. I’m so happy we will be together for Christmas!
When Rob isn’t here, there is a piece of me missing. Waking up in the mornings to no one beside me really drives the point home day after day that Rob won’t be coming home until April. Our baby cats won’t be seeing their cat dad for months. I’m not sure what they think is happening but Emilia loves Rob so there is probably a certain amount of bewilderment going through her head. I’ve been sending him lots of pictures of all of us to make him happy.
It’s going to be a long five months. It’s going to be a long winter. I just have to get through the next few weeks and then I’ll be arriving in Japan myself to see him! There will be another trip or two, as well. I want to see him as much as possible and am unwilling to go more than a month, or maybe a month & a half, tops. Plus, we don’t plan on spending too much time in Japan after this trip. Don’t get me wrong… we will go again, but not on a trip of this magnitude. Occasionally, the shipyard sends guys on month long trips and we are interested in going over there for those. We would make a little extra money and get a little more Japanese culture. The shipyard employees recieve a monthly per diem that makes these lucrative opportunities and we have some big financial goals for 2020, so this will be time well spent in the end. One place I really want to visit and didn’t make it to was Osaka so the goal is to go there for a weekend, hopefully hit up Kyoto as well, and knock those cities off our bucket lists. If we don’t accomplish this, there will be a vacation to Osaka in our future.
Anyway, c’mon, December!